What You Need To Know To Stay Sane
Holding your head up is even hard when it seems like your whole world is collapsing in on you. Right after a breakup, the sadness and heartache can overwhelm you....and you HURT! You're missing your sweetheart sooooo much. Plus you can't escape the feeling you will go insane without them! If your romance has unraveled, you know what I'm talking about. Here's what you need to know to cope with a breakup once you've decided this is a person you long to be part of your life again. You want the best chance for how to win love back!
Once you've decided you DO want to win your love back into your life, it's important to have a clear plan. That way you rely on logical smart moves rather than your emotions. Emotions can get you into some nasty trouble pretty quickly! Be sure to send your "Opening Move" letter, and begin a period of no contact with your ex. This is your emotional emancipation, i.e. 'letting go'. You have to 'let go' before you can win your love back. Find Out More.
Next comes your turning point. You will be doing things specifically to cope with your breakup. Believe this......you ARE starting a new story. A story where your sweetheart will end up chasing you! During your no contact period it's crucial you take care of yourself in several key ways and shift your mind to be okay with the things you said in your "Opening Move" letter. You've got to 'let go' and rediscover the "YOU" that originally attracted your partner when your love was new.
There are 4 things you want 'to do' during the next few weeks. Hear me out please! Really, I DO know what it feels like when someone you love deep in your soul suddenly pulls the plug and your world comes crashing down. You don't FEEL like doing anything. But, that's exactly why you need to summon the conviction and plod through this list. The results are astonishing!!1. Pamper and Indulge Yourself.
You might think this sounds the easiest to do. Actually, you will find you have to convince yourself you are worth it and think through what would feel COMPLETELY indulgent to you right this moment. No fair qualifying your choices based on what you think others opinion would be. This is your "me" time so you get to choose. How about a new haircut, even hair color? Maybe your ex's preferences kept you from trying something new. Maybe you always wanted to see the Grand Canyon or drive across the country or spend an entire day watching NASCAR. What Would You Like To Do?
2. Learn Something New & Completely Out of Character For You
Okay, time to push yourself outside your comfort zone. Is there something you always wanted to give a try, but never took the time? For example, I took up karate during my breakup. It was surprising how it made me feel about myself; it puts you in a completely different circle of people; makes you a more interesting person; and can perk your estranged partner's curiosity thinking maybe they don't know you as well as they thought! Some ideas here would be learning a language, taking a cooking or wine tasting class, try Pilates, start piano lessons, whatever strikes your curiosity or sounds fun.
3. Thank You Card A Day For 2 Weeks
You will not believe how this makes you feel inside when you begin writing these 'thank you' cards. I guess you are wondering to whom are you sending 'thank you' cards? This is the fun part. You decide. Really think through your life so far. Who do you appreciate for something they did for you or that person who encouraged you or a family member who loves you just for you or a friend who always makes you laugh? Need examples? First, how about a 'thank you' to your Mom or Dad (or both) simply for being your Mom or Dad. Or, a card to your best friend for all those times they stayed your best friend even though you didn't deserve it. Once you start thinking about it, the list will grow like a snowball. Here are the rules. The 'thank you' must be handwritten and it must be sent by snail mail. You accomplish two things by doing this task. One, your focus switches beyond yourself; and two, it forces you to concentrate on what you have in your life instead of on what you don't have!
4. Write A List of Firsts And Achievements/Milestones
This is going to be a list you will want to keep! It will become a bright light on your worst days--trust me. Set aside uninterrupted time to sit down with a notebook to do nothing but relive the various stages of your life and write down what comes into your mind. Many of these things you may not have thought about in a very looooong time! Once the wheels start turning, the pictures in your head will appear faster than you can write. I'll offer you a few ideas to get you going: first bicycle (the color, who gave it to you); getting your own bedroom; trying out and getting your first part in a play; first real date; first car, getting accepted into college, first vacation on your own, first job making your own money.
More Links to Help You:
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